People that care deeply about others and take it upon themselves to go above and beyond without expecting anything in return will often forget that their needs are just as important (if not more important) as everyone else’s.
Being selfless with others often means being selfish with yourself, most times without you even realising it. Because you want to help others so much, you forget that at times you need help too. You forget that you don’t need to be perfect and have it all figured out. You forget that you’re just like all those people you’re helping – a person with needs, desires, hopes and dreams.
You let yourself go to fulfill a duty to a family member, a friend, a work colleague and others until you get to a point where you wonder who takes care of you? Who has your back? And who can help YOU when you’re in need?
The answer to those questions could be all those people you’ve helped along the years that maybe you’ve never even asked a favour from. BUUUUUUUT before them, there is always you! You know yourself better than anyone else, you know what you need and what you don’t, but yet sometimes you fail to take the time to assess those needs once in awhile and meet them because you’re so focused on others.
You have a better chance at helping yourself if you put in the time to check in with yourself regularly and you don’t forget to prioritise yourself once in a while. You can forge your own tools to deal with different situations and not allow yourself to reach a point of burnout that you’re not sure how to tackle.
Having people that can help you is amazing but if for whatever reason they can’t help you, you need to be able to help yourself. Therefore, please remember you also matter and so do your needs. It can’t always be about everyone else and you need to prioritise yourself as well because you’re important too.