It’s easier to say “Here, you do it” when we’re in a rush and the person next to us is better qualified in our eyes to do whatever task we don’t have the patience for at the moment. However, from that to putting your life in the hands of someone else or allowing them to make decisions for you because they’re more “experienced” is completely different.
When you experience low self-esteem or you have people around that always know best, what’s bound to happen is that A. you will not trust yourself to get things done and B. you will always think their ideas and advice are much better than whatever you’ve come up with. If we give others that much power over us we lose our autonomy and ourselves. We allow them to lead us and paint our future from their perspective and we’re just spectators along for the ride.
It’s good to have people in our corner that can support us and give us advice from time to time, but having them as our full-time advisors can become a problem because eventually, you might have a change of heart or a gut feeling that another way of doing things is possible and they will shut it down because they’ve helped you get this far, haven’t they?
Sometimes even if it looks like others can do the job better than you, it’s still your duty to give it a go and do what you can for yourself. Accepting help from time to time is beneficial, however, overdoing can have serious consequences on how you perceive yourself.
Don’t belittle your talents and abilities, attempt to learn as much as possible about your weaknesses and try to overcome them. You might fail at some point and that’s okay because it will teach you something. You might think it’s too hard, but with time it will become easier.
Don’t give the burden to someone else from the beginning and allow them to take over. It feels good at the beginning, but in time you will want something different and no one can give you back the lost time.
Believe in yourself and remember that you’re the artist of your own life. Don’t hand the paintbrush to anyone else.
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